We all
have a value system, but we aren’t necessarily aware of what those values are –
until we’re put in a situation where people have different values! That is
something that you’re dealing with constantly in a cross-cultural environment.
- Why do I
get so irate when other vehicles drive off-road, or on the wrong side of the
road to get ahead in a traffic jam? Mainly because the concept of waiting your
turn is so inbuilt in me, that anything that usurps that value feels like an
infringement, rude and offensive.
- Why do I
feel offended if someone stops mid-conversation to answer their cellphone? One
of my values is to focus on the person / people who I’m with. (Phone calls can
be returned!)
- Why does
it seem so odd if someone leaves without saying goodbye? Acknowledging others, and one’s own part
within the group, are values.
Just
yesterday at Ouagadougou airport, there were a number of situations that have
revealed either my own value system, or just different views of things:
- My empty
water bottle being confiscated at security, despite my protestations of needing
it so I could get it refilled on the plane and have a supply with me. Do they
not get that an empty water bottle no longer has liquid in it, which is what
the policy concerning such things is actually about?! How dare they take what is a legitimate thing
for me to have on a plane!
- Along the
same lines, once through security, there was a shop so I figured that I could
get a bottle of water there to replace my confiscated empty one, only to find
out that that too would be confiscated. Do they really think that I’d be able
to buy explosives from a shop inside the airport?!
- Pushing
and shoving, and a man blatantly stepping in front of me in line (no different
to being in a car!!).
- Personal
space being somewhat infringed with the derriere of a rather substantial woman (definitely
of “traditional build”) practically in my face as she tried to settle herself
in her seat….
- A man not
locking the toilet door when he was using the facilities………. Hmm.
For many
of these, it’s not that there’s a right or wrong way of doing things. It’s just
the norm of what we’ve grown up with or got accustomed to, so we think that our
way is the right way. Flexibility is the name of the game, and the ability to
laugh – not just at the situations, but also at my reaction to them!